Homosexuality, bisexuality and all other sexual orientations, whatever it may be, I didn’t give any shit about them. Anyway, experience is the best teacher. Since I had some face to face encounters with them, I started thinking about them seriously. The face of reality is always ugly.
Whenever I’m in Kerala, I rarely use car or bike for commuting. I always prefer public transport system such as train or bus. I love sitting relaxed by giving the whole responsibility of my life to an unknown driver’s hands. However, window side seat is a requisite.
Sometimes, if I’m free and no work to do…I simply enter some bus and take ticket till the last bus-stop. You may think I’m crazy (may be I’m!) but the real driving force is my wanderlust. The smell of fresh, unpolluted air; the beauty of green paddy fields and calmness of the streams get me lose in some beautiful day dreams. I love those journeys without any specific destination and purpose.
Few months ago, one day I decided to go for a purposeless journey to an unknown destination. I was sitting relaxed and happy. A fellow passenger who was sitting next to me was missing all the beautiful sceneries outside-he was sleeping. Suddenly, his hand fell on my left thigh. I didn’t care about it since I thought he was sleeping. But, gradually his hand started crawling like a lizard towards my pant zip.
There he goes! He started caressing my manliness. I just waited… I needed to know how far he ventures. After a few strokes, he dared to open my pant zip. I couldn’t tolerate it anymore. Blood was rushing heavily to my head and I hit hard on his hand. Suddenly, he woke up from his sleeping act.
“What the hell you are doing? Are you measuring the size of my cock? You asshole!” I asked him glaring at his eyes. He started blushing and sat without any answers. My pleasure trip became a miserable hell. The saddest part was that the man-can I call him a man?-was roughly the age of my dad. I got down at the next stop and went back home. After that incident I think twice before entering a bus or any other public transport systems.
Another incident happened at a public comfort station at my native, Thrissur. I entered the urinal just to unburden my urinary bladder after a long journey from my uncle’s place. One guy who was standing and doing the same thing I was doing started talking to me. I smiled and replied to all his queries. But, when I looked into his face in the midst of the conversation, one very fact shocked me. He wasn’t talking to me. He was just talking to my pissing cock! That guy followed me by simply asking personal questions in order to build up a rapport. “I’m the wrong person you are looking for… dude!” I told him and he left me.
Those above mentioned experiences are really painful as I’m a citizen of a country where homosexuality is still considered as a taboo and stamped as illegal. We shouldn’t close our eyes to the reality. It’s high time our government should do a rethinking over this issue.
There are lot of underground homosexual cults in our country. As long as these activities remain illegal in our country, those cults or underground societies lack public and government attention. This only leads to unhealthy sexual practices which in turn spread various Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD). To my mind, heterosexuality is the natural way of sex but it doesn’t mean we should ignore, isolate or punish other sexual orientations. It’s all a matter of mind set.
Many countries including United Kingdom have legalized gay marriages and brought laws which favours homosexuality. In our country, if such laws are implemented, those prevalent underground cults and societies will come out of its shells. This helps to identify and give proper consultation and guidance to them. NGOs (Non Governmental Organizations) can also play a big role in educating and guiding these sections of the society.
Initiatives should come from gay activists and societies too. If they can bring into limelight the significance of this issue, half the battle is won. Government should understand that banning and suppressing of these activities will not help in the long run. The objective should not be to isolate a section of society on the basis of their sexual orientation but it should be to identify, educate and bring a feeling of oneness among them. We shouldn’t forget the fact: safer the sex and safer the society.